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13 August 2009
I am havin a blast yang tk tak blast langsung. Seriously. Sakit perut and this weird feeling of cemas most of the time for no apparent reason. Its annoying. What should i do! I wanna go worldstage dengan myra and iqa and ? Haaaaaah. Duno. Anyway, i think i should get myself together. And hopefully i get the car saturday!!! WORLDSTAGE! Hehehe. Muahmuah ladies and gents. lotsa love, me.
If you're wondering why i'm M.I.A
Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but fondness makes the heart grow absent .
12 August 2009
I liked this post zam (mhz jml) ! Thanks for posting it ! ;) Pinjam post !
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, 'How do I know if I married the right person?'
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's
Weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer..
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and Liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. AndTEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression 'the labor of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make' love.
Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.
Remember this always:
'Allah determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'
moral : appreciate what u have..
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's
Weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer..
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and Liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. AndTEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression 'the labor of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make' love.
Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.
Remember this always:
'Allah determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'
moral : appreciate what u have..
** ni hak milik terpelihara zam, i cliloked it, :D lovve it wei, sweet ja !
10 August 2009
the days of dell...
currently listening to estrealla's stay. Huish. I benci something and more like someone right now, i mean what the fuck right. BODOH. I wish i can smack the fuck outta ya. Haih. Ntah pape la kau ni. Merimaskan hidup aku la kekadang and kau ni, kalau aku tak ingat yang kau tu kawan aku, memang aku dah kasi tiaw habis habisan. Dah lamaaaaa aku meniarap dengan kau, cuma kau buta or maybe tak sedar ke buat taktau ke. Aku tak tahu this time and yeah, tak ingin tahu. OK? Si abangang ni, stop throwing tantrums like a lil boy and grow the fuck up dengan awek2 kau sekali. i fuckin dislike her and she is indeed disrespectful, rude and somehow i dont think she got good intentions goin on there, but i dont give a fuck, a round of applause to you and her for sailing on the same boat. the tailor buat i rasa nak bunuh diri, 3 bajus. only 1 la yg elok, lain cam gampanggggggggg. GERAM. urgh. menyesal aku hantar kat dia, kalo aku tauuuuu laa, aku kasi org lain bikin chantekkk skit. Aaaaaaaaaaa dah la convo esok, mampooooosssssss. Im scared, nervous and upset. Mom and dad are gonna be there. Both. Does this spells trouble? MAYBE. I hope nothing stupid happens. Just sitting down in the hall diam2, tengok i smile dapat scroll then bye4 take pictures, balik ! For i, have classes the day after :D I already feel so guilty :( skipped class for this convo, but takpe lah. Bukan selalu :) betol tak ? I saw so many badonkadonks that made me gogaga ehehe. But no, i came for convo, thus i shall go there for that and only that! *nizam, do your job* ahhahahaha. Be my supplier !! ahhhahahha. ngok. So esok i pakai jubah le, amek gambar blablabla, i might post some pics here if im rajin lah :D if not, eheheh facebook people !!
Anger chapter over. So, i think my fingers hurt main psp. Hahaha. Mmm i cut my toenails and nails i ehieheh still panjang than usual. Am i so full of hate? Sheesh. Ok i slept at like... well 5pm selamam and it was like WOAH!! I was kinda buzzzzzedd. I woke up around 4am ish and talked to my friend. Bothered by a call, thats why i woke up. Light sleeper jugak, but my friend was talkin about some kinda problems he had and issues he has at the moment and i just went blank, im sorry for not replying your texts!! We shall sit at the mamak and open a session, shall we? You'd better call me bitch. Hahaha. Or i'll smack yo nuts.
I wanna sleeeeep and yes, sleeeep. Esok its gonna be a hot sunny day, prepared extra clothings just incase! peluh ke panas ke apa. Hihi. muahmuah!! I love you.